H ow will your superiors, peers, and subordinates remember you? Will they talk good or bad mouth you to the grave? I'm not talking about after you're physically gone from this life, but when you leave one positional career space for another.
I remember several distinct people that left either a department or the company, and the reaction of those who continued on. Those who had a remarkable tenure, their peers would gladly have them back in a heartbeat, and then there were those... It would sound something like this:
Lars would ask, "Hey Bill, remember so-and-so?"
Bill would answer, "Yes, I do, great person to work with, wasn't afraid to step up and give a hand. How about that guy, what's his name? I didn't want say good morning to, he just stared at you as if to say 'do you have a problem?'"
Lars reply, "I know what you mean, Jim asked him for a minute of his time once, he just brushed Jim off. Told him if he has time during the month, he'll page him. Can you believe that?"
Bill answered, 'Glad he's gone!'
So how do you want to be remembered?? That all depends on your attitude towards those you live with and work with. An example was my Grandmother at her funeral. I not once heard a negative remark: it was always how she did this or that for me. I remember her always making meals for families when someone was sick or there was a death in the family somewhere in the neighborhood. There was over 1,500 people that came to her viewing to pay their respects to a woman some didn't even know, but the relatives in her neighborhood had great admiration for this woman. Another example was a supervisor (who we will call) Tom. A couple years after a company moved to another state he had passed away; not many came to his funeral, especially his ex. He barked at them, rarely held a nice conversation, no one remembered anything he had to say that was up-lifting. Pretty sad!
What you say, what you do today makes a significant role on your future. If you say 'you don't care' , you really do. Cliche's are hard to stay away from, so here goes, "What goes around, comes around." If your demeanor is cool, calm, you think before you speak, you're doing great, but if you find yourself argumentative, have the last say, have to win every argument, don't worry, there's still hope. You're reading this, which means you have some thoughts on this subject.
It's not always easy to admit and change, but everyone needs a place to start. If you have lunch in your office, DON'T! Go outside to a nearby park or cafe. It will give you time to breath some fresh air, clear the entanglements of work, and better prepare you for the rest of the day. If you find that your day starts out hectic, then get up early and go for a walk before you make your way to work, it can relieve tension before it starts. These are just a couple little tid-bits to help start you on your way to a better you, a you people can relate too, a you people can admire and say great things about long after you've moved on.
So, how will you be remembered?
I remember several distinct people that left either a department or the company, and the reaction of those who continued on. Those who had a remarkable tenure, their peers would gladly have them back in a heartbeat, and then there were those... It would sound something like this:
Lars would ask, "Hey Bill, remember so-and-so?"
Bill would answer, "Yes, I do, great person to work with, wasn't afraid to step up and give a hand. How about that guy, what's his name? I didn't want say good morning to, he just stared at you as if to say 'do you have a problem?'"
Lars reply, "I know what you mean, Jim asked him for a minute of his time once, he just brushed Jim off. Told him if he has time during the month, he'll page him. Can you believe that?"
Bill answered, 'Glad he's gone!'
So how do you want to be remembered?? That all depends on your attitude towards those you live with and work with. An example was my Grandmother at her funeral. I not once heard a negative remark: it was always how she did this or that for me. I remember her always making meals for families when someone was sick or there was a death in the family somewhere in the neighborhood. There was over 1,500 people that came to her viewing to pay their respects to a woman some didn't even know, but the relatives in her neighborhood had great admiration for this woman. Another example was a supervisor (who we will call) Tom. A couple years after a company moved to another state he had passed away; not many came to his funeral, especially his ex. He barked at them, rarely held a nice conversation, no one remembered anything he had to say that was up-lifting. Pretty sad!What you say, what you do today makes a significant role on your future. If you say 'you don't care' , you really do. Cliche's are hard to stay away from, so here goes, "What goes around, comes around." If your demeanor is cool, calm, you think before you speak, you're doing great, but if you find yourself argumentative, have the last say, have to win every argument, don't worry, there's still hope. You're reading this, which means you have some thoughts on this subject.
So, how will you be remembered?
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